Posts Tagged With: Gender Neutrality

To: Anne Gus (Part 1)

Dear Anne Gus,

In the flurry of all the flaming you have been receiving, I hope you are able to find time to sit down and read this. I would like to I introduce you to your West Coast counterpart, Alexandra Wallace. She is an ex-UCLA student, emphasis on EX. Alexandra Wallace’s bid to infamy came in a video that later on went viral. Many video responses made on youtube became viral also. Here is one by Jimmy Wong and DavidSoComedy. (Their responses to Alexandra Wallace actually also applies to your articles.) I just hope you also find out what happened to her after that post went viral online.

In this post I hope to break down your errors and help you understand why they are more ignorant than not.

We will start with your first post titled, Asian Women Need To Stop Dating White Men.

1. Your 2nd sentence to your post is offensive.

“They are such an eyesore that I wish they would just put a big fat trigger warning on themselves, or just like wear one of those blankets that women from the Mid-East wear, jihads, or whatever, and cover up completely. “

As a self-proclaimed feminist, this sentence should not have even appeared in your post (let alone writing the entire post!) Really? This sentence solely shows the entire world or thought catalog community how thoughtless and ignorant of other cultures you are as a white woman (I will touch upon how you experience White Privilege later when I breakdown your 2nd post).

2. Back it up with Facts

“The WMAW phenomenon is itself one steeped in Patriarchal values, sexism and racism.”

If you are going to write something or anything, please, please, PLEASE back it up with facts! It is the same as writing a paper for college: you address the problem, you write your opinion, and you back it up with facts. Baseless claims will have your post going viral and being flamed similar to what Alexandra Wallace experienced a few years ago.

How is WMAW phenomenon steeped in Patriarchal values, sexism and racism? You do know you are contradicting yourself as in the previous paragraph you claimed that we “yellow women” are strong and independent. Are you also insinuating that, according to you, “normal” a white relationships is not steeped in patriarchal values, sexism and racism?

3. Millions of Asian women, really?

Ever since its breakout, it has caused white men to trick millions of Asian women into relationships in which they’re being heavily taken advantage of.

How are these white men tricking millions of Asian women into relationship where they get heavily taken advantage of? Where are the statistics? My genetics professor once said, “Numbers/Statistics don’t lie.” Bless him as much as I did not enjoy the class, that comment is correct. Show us some numbers Anne.

4. Scarlet Fever v. Yellow Fever

Unlike Scarlet fever, which, thanks to modern medicine was gotten rid of after like the First Spanish civil war, scientists back then had no clue how to cure its coeval cousin, the Yellow fever Pandemic.”

You clearly have some clue as to what Scarlet fever is… (I am going on the assumption that you know.) However I hope you do know that Yellow Fever is an actual virus that people suffer from. Here, please educate yourself with this information from Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) website. Please do some research before you make baseless claims!

5. Horsey? Really?

Even now, in 2014, or the Horsey year as you guys call it,

If you meant to be mocking, you did it quite unsuccessfully as I am not impressed. It makes you sound like a bloody 5 year old.

 

6. No Cure to Yellow Fever?

“we’re no closer to finding a cure.”

In #4, I mention that you should do research before you post. From the CDC website that I linked you, “Among those who develop severe disease, 20% – 50% may die.” and “Those who recover from yellow fever generally have lasting immunity against subsequent infection.”

There, that is CDC statistics.

7. Strong & Beautiful?

“White men suddenly stop going after strong and beautiful white women like myself, and start trading us for our shorter, black haired and more yellow-hued sisters, namely, you people. ”

Sorry, from what I have read so far I can only determine that you are strongly ignorant and beautifully self-confident. I applaud you for being beautifully self-confident as you think yourself as strong and beautiful. However, you are definitely strongly ignorant. As Macy has mentioned in point #3 in her article, White Men Dating Asian Women Isn’t The Problem – Your Racism Is (Plus, Tips On How To Cure Yourself), you sound quite jealous. Must be our flawless black hair? Jealousy does not suit you. In addition, I’m sure you haven’t met many Asians as you are generalizing all of us. Yes, I might be 5 ft. 2in. but I am proud of it. However, you do know that there are Asian women out there that are close, if not over, 6ft tall?

In addition, please do not ignore all the short white women out there. Do tell all of us how tall YOU are… & back this stuff up with statistics… @_@”

8. Asian Women as Robots?

causes White men not only to date outside their own race, but also to see you Asian women as nothing but dehumanized, servile Toshiba robots

Really? Last time I checked I am as human as the next person. My blood is the same color as a person from another ethnicity. Again, you do not back your claims up with facts. Get this: “Asian women =/= dehumanized servile Toshiba robots” sorry to disappoint. This isn’t like the movies: iRobot or Terminator…

9. Pleasantness

Being pleasant is NOT a good trait, that’s a very Patriarchal way of thinking, being pleasant denotes that you’re not fierce and strong like women should be.

First off, here is the dictionary definition of pleasant in the context you are using it. From Dictionary.com: Pleasant – (of persons, manners, disposition, etc.) socially acceptable or adept; polite; amiable; agreeable.

Sorry, how is being pleasant not a good trait? According to you I can’t be fierce and strong if i’m “socially acceptable or adept, polite, amiable, agreeable”?

Are you also implying that you aren’t “socially acceptable or adept, polite, amiable, agreeable”? That just reminds me of Ron Weasley’s table manners.

10. History Portion

I am not even going to get into it… and please spell HISTORY right way…. spelling it HERstory doesn’t make you a feminist. It makes you look like you are unable to type or utilize spell check…

11. Cultured = Bruce Chan?

Being a very cultured young woman in her twenties who watches a lot of foreign film, I faced this stereotype many years ago. I mean how many female ninjas do you see in all the Bruce Chan movies ?

If you were a “very cultured young woman in her twenties who watches a lot of foreign film” you would not have made the mistake that it’s Bruce Lee and not Bruce Chan…

Again you generalize! You clearly have only watched “foreign” films made by Hollywood. Have you watched some terrible movies such as “The Grandmaster” or movies with Maggie Q in it? Yes they are still sexualized in those films. However, Hollywood film does the same exact thing to white women.

Unless you are referring to Jackie Chan movies and female fight scenes? If I recall correctly, CZ12 had a fight scene amongst two women.

Finally, Female ninjas? Ninjas actually come from the Japanese Culture. So you maybe thinking about females who know kung-fu? Well, in the previous paragraphs I already made my suggestions (to some female fighting scenes).

12. Cavemen Syndrome

It is obvious that White men, a group that is infamous for watching movies, have harnessed this stereotype and now use it to justify pouncing on unsuspecting Asian women.

Since we do not live in the era of the cavemen, men who: clump women over the head with anything, throw (women) over their shoulder and then proceed to pounce them, is highly frowned upon. It is probably the quickest way to end up being arrested and possibly in prison.

13. Exotifying, Objectifying, and Dehumanizing

They do this, of course, to feed their own twisted need to feel masculine and dominant, while exotifying, objectifying and dehumanizing you poor Asians. You hear that Asian women? They think you’re exotic, like Fanta Exotic. That’s right. White Men think you’re about as human as a carbonated drink.

I feel like you cannot just clump masculinity, dominance, exoticism, objectifying, and dehumanizing all together and not explain why you think that. Men are stereotypically thought to be masculine and dominant which is part of the reason why they’re taught that “crying is for wimps” or some tosh like that. However, exotifying, objectifying and dehumanizing? White men are not the ONLY men who exotify and objectify Asian women…

On Friday while I was out with friends and as we were leaving, a NON-WHITE waiter stopped me and proceed to apologize and ask if I was Chinese. Then later on tell me I just looked so beautiful. So NO, White men are not the only ones exotifying and objectifying women.

I hope as a Feminist you are aware that white men are not the only ones objectifying women in general, right?

Finally, please do enlighten me about how White men dehumanize Asian women I would love to know.

14. You All Look The Same!

And, like they’re not even dating you for your looks, because, like no offense, but you all look kind of similar, so they’re dating you purely because of your race.

Wow. Over-generalization. I’m sorry but you and Alexandra Wallace must be related because with your logic I can say, “don’t be offended but all White Women look the same.” I can reassure you, we do not all look the same nor are we all a carbon copies of each other. THAT would be worrisome and weird.

15. Asian Men

No offense, but they’re like kinda short and nerdy and not very hot. I mean they’re perfect for you, you’re like made for each other, but white men kind of like, belong to us.

I’m sorry, what? Short, nerdy and not very hot? *sigh* First of all, you are generalizing as I know Asian men who aren’t short… What’s wrong with being nerdy? There are nerdy white men too. I guess that’s a turn off for you? Asian men who are not very hot, hmm.. wow. You have clearly not come in contact with a lot of Asians for you to say that. I pity thee. Please come to NYC maybe then you’ll come in contact with more.

Finally, what is this about white men belonging to white girls? Sorry girl, there is no written rule about white men belonging to white girls. I’m sorry you think that way, because it just shows that you are a narrow-minded individual.

16. Mandarin?

“Help me put a stop to this Mandarin madness, show your Asian friends this article and send tweet under #stopWMAW.”

So help me! Mandarin is a dialect of Chinese. Chinese spoken in China. China is a nation in the continent of Asia. Before you jump with your messed up logic that Mandarin = Asian, Mandarin is spoken in a few countries in Asia but not all. Last time I checked, Russia still spoke Russian, Korea still spoke Korean and Japan still spoke Japanese, etc.

This post is the result of my ASIAN friend showing me this article. I shall congratulate you as you caused me to come back to this blog after a year of absence to deconstruct/rip apart your post instead of writing my thesis.

I feel like we should either tweet under #StopAnneGus or #End Ignorance, that would be more appropriate. I hope this post will help you educate yourself and realize how ignorant you truly are.

Sincerely,

Christine

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A Venture Through Gender Neutrality

Did you know that there is a gender neutral bathroom located in Hunter College? It is located on the 4th floor of the Thomas Hunter Building.

A couple of days ago the 4th floor bathroom at Thomas Hunter was out of order. That lead to a hunt for a woman’s bathroom on the 3rd floor, but this bathroom was like no other. Perhaps finding the bathroom door with many writings upon it left me to doubt if it was a bathroom at all. When I finally gathered up the courage to go in, I opened the door to a male coming out of the bathroom with another at the sink washing his hands. I was so embarrassed thinking I just walked into the men’s bathroom, I awkwardly asked the guy whether it was the women’s bathroom. Only for him to awkwardly reply by telling me that it was a gender-neutral bathroom. Those few minutes were probably one of the most mortifying minutes of my life!

Gender Neutral Bathroom at Hunter College

However in hindsight, I should not have been surprised at all. My first year of college was spent at SUNY New Paltz, which gave me the space I needed to develop my own opinions on different issues. While there, I learned about gender neutrality from my peers as at the time there was a push by students urging SUNY New Paltz to create gender-neutral bathrooms. Now two years later, SUNY New Paltz started offering gender-neutral housing this semester. But two years ago, I did not put a lot of thought into gender-neutral bathrooms let alone housing, however, I unconsciously always had an opinion.

On a bus ride back from Montreal we stopped at this pizza store. At this rest stop there was at bathroom for each gender, therefore the queue for women’s bathroom was quite long. I decided to use the bathroom labeled for men as it was not in use. When I was about to close the door, an elderly lady told me: “That’s the men’s bathroom.” I just looked at her, shrugged, told her “I know,” and closed the door. Bathrooms are just bathrooms to be used by everyone, so why label it by gender? A generalization could be: gendered bathrooms’ is society’s way of segregating and reminding everyone that we live in a heterosexual patriarchal society.

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